When we love someone, we feel strong, we feel powerful. We feel happy because we have found a companion who can understand us. That energy is pure and beautiful. But we need to take care of that energy with mindfulness. If we don’t know how to take care of our love, it can easily turn into suffering. When understanding is there, we know what to do and what not to do to bring happiness and peace to the other person. This is true love. We nourish our understanding by practicing deep listening and loving speech. Without true love, you can’t be happy at all.
When you fall in love without the five spiritual powers [faith, diligence, concentration, mindfulness, insight], you risk depending on another person’s beauty or goodness instead of your own. But if you have mindfulness and concentration, you know how to handle your love, and love will not create suffering in you and your beloved.
Love is an energy. Is it giving rise to more craving, more anxiety and fear? Or does it give us the energy of peace, compassion, and liberation?